– Nobody dies of a broken heart: you fall, you get up, you dust off, you move on. Someone once told me that you attract what you are ready for.Maybe subconsciously this is all I have ever been ready for? Or, have I been missing something to prevent the long term commitment I am seeking?However, what might be interesting to note is that all these guys went on to have serious relationships after me. Maybe we shouldn’t have gotten involved with each other in the first place. It seems like the minute it’s more painful than fun, you get out.I don’t know what to think of that, and maybe I rather not think about it at all. Maybe I shouldn’t have played those stupid games that everyone plays. But, when the pattern repeats itself on numerous occasions, repeats you can’t help but wonder.“Sam” ________________________________________ Dear Sam, To avoid finding yourself in this situation, I am going to tell you loudly to STOP what you are doing and step back s-l-o-w-l-y. If you try to avoid one of the stages, problems may develop in the relationship, which may result in you or your partner ending the relationship.When you recognize what stage of dating the relationship is in, you will understand what is called for or needed in order to move through that stage and onto the next stage. The purpose of stage one is to determine if there is enough physical attraction, chemistry, commonality and interest to warrant dating.
Decision to continue will come as long as both parties find each other interesting and fun to be with, and physically attracted to.Month two is the romantic stage and during this stage both of you want to spend increasingly amounts of time together.People often describe this stage as feeling physically attracted or infatuated with the other person.Since you have trouble moving on past the third month, my suggestion to you is to and allow your boyfriend time to realize his feelings for you are deeper than just friends. It will happen by him going through the stages at his own pace.A couple of blocks away from the Upper West Side home of radio’s king of raunch, Howard Stern, his Torah-scholar daughter sits in her ankle-length skirt and recites a blessing.