I know this might seem like a contradiction to the above, but it can be valuable to look to the beginnings of that old fear of rejection. Maybe you'd been taught by someone else that rejection is the very worst thing that can happen.
Perhaps you can remember specific times when you'd felt very rejected before.
Eventually, these behaviours may bring about the feared rejection Someone wrongly believes a group will reject them, so they start feeling angry with the group, and the group rejects them. In fact, some people just want to be proved right - even if that means a bad outcome!
Now the 'prophet' feels they were right from the very beginning: "I told you so! Expecting the worst can act as a type of emotional insurance policy. How do your beliefs around possible rejection influence your behaviour?
This may sound strange, but it had a powerful impact on the way Kelly felt about those old school times and helped her 'move on' from them.
Trying to think differently is a small part of actually changing. Hypnosis can work directly with how people feel when they experience situations and therefore bypass the impracticalities of trying to change someone's thought processes when they are highly emotional.
So now you need to find OTHER big sources of happiness (this is one of the absolute keys to solving the problem of how to get over someone at point in your life).
Ever noticed how people having emotional problems often seem to tell you how they want to be.Close your eyes and imagine going back to those times as your current self with all you've learned since that time (even the things you've learned from this fear of rejection article).Imagine reassuring that younger you: your present you calmly telling that younger self how everything's going to be okay."Kelly was convinced that these early "outsider" experiences were at the root of her current problems: "I'm always looking for signs that my partner is about to reject me! I'm always seeking reassurance, always wondering what he really means."Seeking reassurance from other people is a dead end.Reassurance needs to be found from within you, not from others. Because look, word, or action from other people can be warped and wrongly interpreted as an upcoming rejection when it simply isn't.